~My dad last night, to my mom, not me, started talking about how he’d just started hearing people talk about”that word, ‘entitlement’” a lot recently. My dad is mostly absent from the wider world, except for the PBS Newshour, The History Channel, and Suze Orman. Though, he did read a few books about the financial crisis, so I’m surprised this concept didn’t enter his mind with the whole debate over whether homeowners or bankers we responsible for people getting mortgages they clearly couldn’t afford. Maybe the fact that he believed it was the bankers’ fault blocked him from hearing the criticism of “entitlement.” In any event, he now really dislikes the idea that there are people out there who just want what they want regardless of their means.
~Basic idea of this article is that Asian adults push kids to work through problems until they succeed, whereas Western adults make kids feel they are unable to solve problems if they can’t solve them easily. This reminds me of the “tiger mom” memoir author saying she believed Asian kids and young adults were genuinely confident in their abilities, whereas children of non-immigrants in the US would always say they weren’t really good at something. They were just lucky, or people were complimenting them just to be nice. However, I have met people who grew up in Asia who were clearly overconfident in their abilities when entering into situations where they actually had no experience.
~There was an international student from South Korea who was a new transfer to my school, but I always forgot he’d spent two years at a private US high school and another year at a US college. He asked us to help him with his papers, which we were glad to do at first (though a few weeks on when I said I really had to focus on my own work one day he seriously would not take “no” for an answer). One of the first times, his professor had given out a sheet on how she wanted the papers formatted. Instead of giving a simple demo sentence with an in-text citation, she did the crazy annoying thing of placing, in the context of a paragraph, “(e.g. “Author Page”).”
~This led our student to write all of his citations like “(e.g. “Stephens 287”)” rather than “(Stephens 287).” My friend and I noticed this, figured out the miscommunication, explained that “e.g.” means example, and that there was no way that this is what his professor wanted. He proceeded to argue that she wouldn’t have written it this way if she didn’t want it to look this way. He very firmly refused to change it, so then we just read through the rest of his essay, but pointed out with every single citation, “I know you think that’s what she wants, but it’s not standard and it’s not what she wants.”
~I think about 2/3 of the way through it finally occurred to him that it was possible that we might actually know more about this process since we were older than him, therefore had spent a whole year more than he had not only in college, but in this specific college, where he was a brand new student. In the end, he did a lot of other things to disrupt the lives of people living on the hall and talked about how he was going to transfer again to a way more expensive private school, before just moving back to South Korea.
Not even joking, a part of my jade plant just broke and rolled off the shelf of its own accord. I… I don’t even know… Giving up the plant food from now on…